Hit the spot

"If dopamine is the compound that breeds butterflies in our stomachs and causes people to impulsively leave their spouses, oxytocin elicits a feeling of intense compatibility, the kind that makes you think, “I could sit next to this person for the next thirty years.” In matters of the heart, oxytocin provides more clarity in decision-making because it allows you to see your crush with more depth, and with an eye toward the future rather than just the current, fleeting moment.

With practice, could we learn to utilize this knowledge of our own brains to be certain – or at least close to certain – about who and when we choose to marry?"


How do we make romantic decisions?

Jerk

Everyone protects himself some way or another. There are people who ask a pretty girl to marry them in front of a whole table of people, just to live the hope -in his insecure mind- of amusing her and maybe receiving her attention. Others are overtly disgusting and rude, because they built up insensitivity so that when they are rejected; well who cares? she is  B****. Then there are the assholes, they don't have to be rude, they just have to be cold, they never open up, why should they? They probably will get what they get anyway. Sure they might lose a few utilities here and there, but is it worth laying yourself out there to be embarrassed, rejected or underappreciated?

I don’t know what the ideal man is, but I’ll tell you this: rationality may give you many benefits; sensitivity gives you nothing of true value. I envy the thick, robotic homo sapiens. That does not mean you have to be rude, because let’s face it that tactic just does not work, you just need to realize your limit, but caring for people and events is no way to live, you will be constantly let down by people, constantly hurt by the world. There is no reprieve for the pain that society has to offer, one solution remains: give nothing, feel nothing and smile.